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Procrastination the INTJ Way
Year: 2015
John Green: INFP
Introverted Feeling (Fi): John Green usually doesn’t make his feelings public (though his ideas are very public). He’s good at writing deep, highly emotional characters who ask harsh questions about morality and the nature of human existence. His writing is always highly emotion driven and leaves most F-type readers sobbing when they The Fault in Our Stars, or Looking for Alaska. John Green has a strong desire to help other people and certainly does so through his writing and vlogging. Continue reading
Are INTJs Asexual?
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INTJs: Embarrassed about Crying in Public?
Abbie asked: Help! I’m an INTJ and I’m crying… In a public place… With no secluded spot or sanctuary I can run to… And people are watching… What do I do? What do you do?
Answer: Curtesy queue interruption –this is what you should do.
Forget that other people are watching.
It does not matter what anyone thinks of you. A person who judges you for crying is not someone whose opinion you should value enough to let it affect you. When you cry in public, that’s when you really discover the character of the people you care about. The ones who judge you aren’t people you want to keep around and those who don’t will probably be your friends for life.
Secondly, you should never be ashamed of crying.
There are large quantities of immature T-types out there who will tell you that emotion is for weaklings. To that, I say that if you have not cried –if you have not been broken, your life has been too easy and you have not learned enough.
Don’t listen to anyone who tells you that you’re weak for emoting. Crying releases endorphins, which is why we sometimes can’t feel better until we’ve had a decent cry. Emotion is what makes us human. If we could not feel, we would not make moral decisions.
If there is nowhere to hide your tears, stop worrying about it and deal with what’s really important (aka the issue that’s making you cry in the first place).
When an issue is important enough, just let yourself cry. Who cares if people are watching? Cry, and then move on. That’s all I can really tell you.
Novinha – Ender’s Game: ISTJ
Ender’s Game Saga, Orson Scott Card
Other factors to keep in mind: PTSD
Si: She’s capable of holding long-term, committed grudges. She has an extremely difficult time letting go of pretty much everything from her past. Yeah, her parents died when she was a kid, but she never, ever, ever lets go of that. In fact, she lets it turn her into an icy, cold, and even hateful person (yet, she doesn’t show signs of PTSD). Her first impressions of Ender, she directly relates to Libo and her past experience. Though Novinha is an idealist, her practicality is her strongest trait. She’s practical enough to give up some of her strongest desires to protect people.
Te: In comparison to Novinha, Ender seems like an F dom, but in reality, they’re both Te users. From a young age, Novinha is filled with ambition that leads her to want to take control of Lusitania’s zenobiology department before she’s ready. She likes to be in control of her situation and lashes out at others when she feels she’s Continue reading
Using MBTI to Communicate Effectively
Question: Hi! I’m an INFP female with some sort of Aspie-autistic spectrum disorder thing (I don’t know the word) and I was wondering, is it crazy that I think that just by looking and interacting with a person long enough, no matter how long I’ve known them or what, that I can detect what their personality type is, and then from that, use this poss-umption (possibility/assumption/don’t judge me) in order to formulate how I will react and respond to their self-ness? I don’t know… I feel like you would be able to culminate the right amount of truth from this curiosity, and how weirdly I needed to word it in order to explain how I felt myself was trying to be explained. Wow that was a train wreck. Anyways, thanks!
INTJ translation: After enough exposure to MBTI, is it possible to learn how to type people in conversation and then change your behaviour/language to accommodate their thought process?
Answer: Yes. I do it every day.
The key to a good friendship is always to give the impression that you not only like the other person, but that you understand them. This isn’t always easy or possible, but using your understanding of MBTI, you can definitely get better at it. Continue reading
Dr. Allison Cameron: ESFJ
House MD
Fe: Early on, Cameron is easily compromised by her emotions. She attaches herself emotionally to people, and this often ends up interfering with her work. When she’s mad at someone (or she loves someone), her objectivity us compromised. Cameron has a hard time understanding why other people’s (Fi people’s) sense of morality is different than hers. She expects that there is a universal standard of morality that applies these same Continue reading
To my Grammar Nazis
Recently, I’ve gotten an influx of grammar-correcting comments, which I’d like to address. I believe grammar is expressly important, but it’s not the most important thing in writing.
You spelled ______ wrong! Don’t you understand how important grammar is?
Being a grammar nazi is a poor way to assert your intelligence because it merely expresses emotional immaturity. A grammar nazi is a person who lacks the self-control necessary to restrain themselves from voicing their inner-critic at inappropriate times and places. He misses the big picture in order to focus on minute details.
Correcting other people’s grammar does not make anyone think of you as a genius. A person may be academically intelligent, but that does them no good if they lack emotional maturity. On a larger scale, this is why Ender Wiggin was chosen to fight the bugger war over his brother Peter. Both were incredibly intelligent, but one of them lacked emotional maturity.
I completely understand the urge to correct other people’s grammar –believe me. However, self-control is far more important. If you can’t control the things you chose to say, then who are you? Because you’re not your own person. You’re simply being swayed one way and another by your emotional responses to things that aren’t important.
“Recognise is spelled with a Z.”
Yeah, maybe in America, but in the UK, we spell it with an S. My earlier attempts to cater all my spellings toward Americans (who comprise the largest percentage of my readership) were a flop, and I’ve gone back to UK spellings.
Consider this. Which is more important? Somebody else’s correctness, or your maturity? Are you simply going to react to everything you see, rather than assertively making a decision as to how you will respond? Are you going to sacrifice your own maturity for the sake of something you probably can’t change?
I am an English Major. I knew the risks of deciding not to spend an extra ten minutes editing per post on this website. It’s for this very reason that I specifically avoid connecting this blog to the books/stories that I’ve published.
I apologise for any grammatical errors you may find on this blog. I’m sorry if they offend you, but they don’t offend me enough that I’m going to spend my entire day off trying to fix all of them.
Clara Oswald: ENTP
Doctor Who
Ne: Clara has no problem seeing potentials and ideals. She views the world and the people in it in terms of ideals, what could potentially become rather than what is right in front of her. She makes connections between less obvious dots and catches on to unvoiced connections between people. Clara is a big picture person who believes the future Continue reading
Ianto Jones: ISFJ
Torchwood
Dominant Introverted Sensing (Si): Ianto has an eye for the archaic, be it pocket watches, 1920s films or Jack’s coat. He also tends to rely on old fashioned methods for doing things, such as timing events with a pocket watch rather than a computer. He’s terrified by the thought that when he dies, Jack might eventually forget him. Ianto is able to memorise information on the spot and is able to recall it off the cuff when nobody Continue reading
Aragorn: ISTP
Lord of the Rings, JRR Tolkien
Ti: Aragorn doesn’t talk much about his thoughts, and when he does, he’s always careful to think through his thoughts before he speaks. He has an objective view of the world and is capable of making tough decisions where a others aren’t. At times, he Continue reading
Lord Arthur Goring: ENTP
An Ideal Husband, Oscar Wilde
Ne: Goring dislikes convention, and deliberately dances around it. He tends to think of life as a game, and doesn’t always take his obligations seriously, however, he does this deliberately. He makes a point not to take anything seriously. We know however, that he’s actually a deep thinker. He’s capable of understanding both the trivial and the profound. Continue reading
Claudius – Hamlet: ENTJ
Hamlet, William Shakespeare
Dominant Extraverted Thinking (Te): Claudius is intelligent, manipulative and conniving. He’s power hungry and though he loves Gertrude, it’s also fairly likely that he married her strategically in order to usurp the throne from Hamlet post Hamlet the elder’s death. Claudius is a great public speaker and maintains the majority of his power via Continue reading
INTJs in Christopher Nolan films
The first time I watched Inception, I came away on fire with excitement about the concepts that had just been left ambiguously unresolved at the end of the movie. Meanwhile, the ENFP with whom I’d watched it was left scratching her head trying to comprehend what she just seen.
We watched it again. She understood a little more, but it wasn’t until we’d seen it at least three times (and I’d explained it to her in depth) before she finally understood it.
Christopher Nolan’s more recent films, namely Inception and Interstellar, both feature ISTP protagonists. However, despite featuring only one blatantly INTJ character each (Saito and Dr. Brandt), they still bear the express markings of INTJ writing. Nolan’s earlier work however, did not hold to this trend, but showed a remarkably large frequency of INTJ protagonists. Continue reading
Alfred Borden: INTJ
The Prestige
Ni: “Secrets are my life.” Borden’s game is mystery, and he’s better at it than pretty much everyone. He deliberately makes his tricks simple because he knows that Angier will look for a complicated solution. He’s ambitious and singly focused, literally living his game of magic in every day life, where other magicians only perform their Continue reading
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