Shubham (ENTP) asked: I have observed that some of my friends who are S types retake the MBTI test again and again to get a N type.eg- one of my ISTJ friend took the test almost 5 times and got INTJ once. Now whenever he meets someone he claims to be an INTJ, although he is completely an ISTJ.
I have observed this behaviour with many of my S type friends (specially ISTPs and ISFPs who sometimes claim to be ENFPs.). I personally think that there is no reason one should change their personality type or start behaving like some other type. I think that this is a result of stereotyping of Ns being better than Ss.
Have you observed a similar behaviour anytime? What is your hypothesis on why some Ss want to be typed as Ns.
Yes. Yes, I have.
The internet, and many fandoms seem to have convinced themselves that INTJs are…for some reason…the best MBTI type ever. There is no logical reason to believe that INTJs are somehow better than other types, and there are even fewer logical reasons to try to become an INTJ if you are not one.
So, why does INTJ-fetishization happen?
Because Stereotypes stick
There are a lot of negative stereotypes that have gotten latched on to each of the MBTI types, and some of those stereotypes are more flattering than others. For instance:
Si: stubborn and stuck in the past
Ni: always 10 steps ahead of you
Naturally, any irrational person would want to attach themself to the more flattering stereotype of the two, and because the internet has developed an obsession with INTJs, all the idiots who don’t know who they are want to be INTJs.
Quite frankly however, there is nothing inherently better about a well developed Ni function as compared to a well developed Si function. In fact, a well developed Si function is far better than a poorly developed Ni function.
And why is INTJ-fetishization a problem?
Because Self-deception Damages Self-Development
When you lie to yourself about who you are, you are hindering your own growth as an individual. People create illusions through which to live their lives because their subconscious minds are convinced that those illusions make life less painful. However, what those illusions actually do is further our complacency.
We tell ourselves, I have [insert flattering trait here]. I don’t have [insert flaw that you actually have here], so obviously I don’t need to change anything. I’ll just be complacent for he rest of my life and that will make me better than everyone else. I don’t need to improve.
If you’re further interested in this idea, read Flannery O’Connor’s short story, “Everything That Rises Must Converge.”
When we lie to ourselves about who we are, it’s because we don’t like who we are. And…well, if we can’t accept who we are, then we will never have passed the first step to improving ourselves.