Skeeter Phelan: INFP

Guest Post by Emily, INFP

The Help, Kathryn Stockett

Dominant Introverted Feeling (Fi): Skeeter is one of the only people bothered by how the maids are treated. When Mrs. Stein asks her to write a list of things that bother her but don’t seem to bother anyone else, it ends up being a long list. When interviewing Aibileen, she tells her that she is tired of the rules. When she was a kid, visiting Constantine, her mom told her to be nice to Constantine’s neighbours, but Skeeter didn’t know why she wouldn’t be nice to them. When Hilly tells her to write the health initiative for the newsletter, Skeeter eventually tells her she won’t write it. She also paid Pascagoula’s brothers to put the toilets in Hilly’s yard. She has almost no interest in dating and broke up with Stuart after their first date because he said she was writing the Miss Myrna column to get a husband. Although she is writing a cleaning column, she has no interest in learning how to clean. She buys banned books off the black market because “if the State of Mississippi banned them, they must be good.”

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Harley – Pokémon: INFP

Guest Post by Andrew, ENTJ

Pokémon Anime Franchise

Dominant Introverted Feeling (Fi): Harley lives in a reality where feelings are paramount – and only his own, not anyone else’s. In fact, he has a tendency to blow trivial hurts out of proportion and to hold grudges for ridiculous reasons. He doesn’t only hate the girl who stole his snack in school, but also the girl who looks exactly like her (May). He has a vendetta against May for no other reason than this; he does everything in his power to humiliate her in public and derives pleasure from her embarrassment. Harley gives captivating contest performances which engage the emotions of the audience, but he opts to work with their fear and shock rather than their wonder and admiration. He is individualistic in both his clothing style (derived from his favorite Pokemon, Cacturne) and his effeminate mannerisms.

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Si users – How to talk to INxJs

Itae asked: In your latest posts, and comments beneath them, the problem of Si vs Se communication has been brought up. As an INxJ-surrounded INFP (dancing on the edge of Fi-Si loop for most of my life) I want to ask you for some sort of advice. How do I effectively talk about past with INxJs? Somewhere in the comments it’s been mentioned that Ni users always have to adapt their communication style to Si users, not vice versa, and that’s pretty unfair. ;)

I now feel properly guilty for having never expected to get a question like this. I compliment your open-mindedness.

First, I do think it worth mentioning that because INxJs are Ni I dominant, we tend to think about the past in relation to the future and present. Experience can influence how accurate intuition can be, meaning that the more we’ve seen a pattern of events play out repeatedly in life, the more likely our Ni is going to pick up on and predict outcomes in the present and future.

This can mean that INxJs who have Anxiety or PTSD get caught in cycles of being afraid that negative events of the past are also going to happen in the future. However—under actually dangerous circumstances, that same trait can save our lives (it certainly has for me).

All that said, there are a couple ways you could approach talking to us about the past. You could engage us in a conversation about patterns of human behavior. Get me talking about the way history repeats itself and you’ve got a conversation that I’ll be hooked on for (sometimes for hours). This could also be a conversation about how we think people today will behave based on what we know about the past.

I also recommend allowing INxJs to share their (sometimes socially deviant) opinions about the past without judging them. One thing that always puts me off talking to some (not all) Si users is when they correct me on the socially traditional or generally accepted way of viewing things. What they often fail to realize is that I’m perfectly aware of what most people think about X topic and have thought through why I think what I do. Hear us out before you shut us down. Let us be outliers and we’re more likely to actually share our opinions with you.

Cyrano de Bergerac: INFP

Guest post by annesophie, INFJ —

Cyrano de Bergerac, Edmond Rostand

Cyrano de Bergerac INFP | Cyrano de Bergerac #MBTI #INFP

Fi: Cyrano doesn’t adopt the morality of the people around him but instead has his own ideas of right and wrong. He is absolutely sure that the unconventional combination of his poetry and Christian’s voice is the way to go when Christian wants to pursue Roxane. When the theater crowd wants Montfleury to perform, he disagrees vehemently and has no problem making his opinion known. Cyrano is unapologetically true to self, valuing authenticity to the point of takin Continue reading

Connor Franta: INFP

Official typing, by Arvid Walton

Connor Franta INFP | The Book Addict's Guide to MBTI #MBTI #INFP

Fi: Connor is a genuinely nice person who is deeply affected by acts of cruelty or unkindness. He cares about other people and has a sincere desire to help them, and this is part of the reason that he shares much of his personal life with the public. Furthermore, he has pursued many a project to help people in developing countries (Ex. his Thirst Project to help fund water wells for people in Swaziland). Connor stays true to his own beliefs and principles regardless of what other people think o Continue reading

Dawn – Pokémon: INFP

Guest Post by Andrew, ENTJ

Pokémon Anime Franchise

Dawn INFP| Pokemon #MBTI #INFP

Introverted Feeling (Fi): More than anything, Dawn feels the need to stay true to herself.  She cares little for what others tell her to do, always brushing off her mother’s words of caution with a cheerful “No need to worry!”  Dawn can take minor slights personally; when Paul doesn’t remember her when they cross paths for the second time, she is highly insulted.  It can take time for Dawn to warm up to people (especially her rivals and the crass Paul), but once she understands them and gets to know them better, she will hear them out when they voice opinions contrary to her own, and will be more gentle in her criticisms of them.  However, she immediately befriends Ash and Brock, whose morals align closely with her own, upon meeting them. Continue reading

Bod Owens – The Graveyard Book: INFP

Guest post by Emily, INFP

Neil Gaiman, The Graveyard Book

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Dominant Fi: Bod dislikes Miss Lupescu almost immediately and says so. He is disturbed by Jack’s business card in the shop. When he takes Scarlett to see the barrow, he doesn’t try to make her feel better by telling her they wouldn’t get hurt. He goes to school, despite it being against the rules to leave the graveyard. At school, Bod generally keeps to himself, and only gets involved when he notices that the other kids aren’t standing up to Nick and Mo. He decides to escape from the ghouls because he wants to keep his identity, and knows his original name doesn’t matter. (“I’m Nobody Owens. That’s who I am.”) He reacts strongly to the snow, especially since he had only seen it three times at that point. Continue reading

Do INTJs like INFPs?

Sofia V.N. asked: Hi I am and INFP and there is this really interesting INTJ named Katie at my school and my close friend Shannon is now really good friends with her. I really want to hang out with Shannon again but she is always with Katie (Now I don’t want to be misconstrued she can be friends with who ever she wants) but I never know what to saw  to Katie because she always has this very menacing face and I can’t compose and sentence that she will be interested in. I would just like to know what I should talk to her about and what conversational topic she would be interested in. Also if INTJS like us INFPS.

Sorry that this was more me seeking advice then me asking a question.

Sofia V.N.

Since I don’t know Katie, I have no idea what topics of conversation she would be interested in regardless of whether she’s an INTJ or not. MBTI type does not dictate a person’s hobbies or interests. It merely influences how their thought process works.

Do all INTJs like all INFPs? No.

Do some INTJs dislike INFPs? Yes.

Do some INTJs love INFPs? Yes.

There are plenty of INFPs that I enjoy being around, and there are also a fair number that I can’t stand. In my experiences, it really depends on the relative maturity of each of the people in question.

Louis Zamperini: INFP


Louis Zamperini Unbroken ENFP

Fi: As a teenager, Zamperini isolated himself from his classmates and put up a tough front to hide the misery he felt inside. Running gave him a way to deal with his feelings and helped him to develop principles that came to define the rest of his legacy. He was always a bit rebellious and liked to define his own morality, rather than relying on Continue reading

Why Tolkien was an ISTJ

The first thing I’d like to make clear is that Tolkien does not write like an INFP. Though he was known for not finishing projects he started on and for working in “idea bursts,” his writing does not express an Ne-style creativity. If you want a better example of very INFP writing, look to Neil Gaiman as your (exaggerated) example.

Having studied medieval literature at the university level, it is clear to me that Tolkien did not come up with most of his “ideas” himself. Almost all of the cultures and concepts found in Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit, and the Silmarilion are literally borrowed aspects of the medieval era literature he was obsessed with. If you need evidence of this, here you go:


  • Wergild: the individual naming of weapons and treasure found in Anglo Saxon culture, wherein each treasure was unique and one of a kind. Where do you think Sting, the Arkenstone and Mithril came from?

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Do I relate to INFPs?

Elise Ann asked: How do you relate to INFPs? you must find us exhausting

I do find you exhausting. You burst out with seemingly random topic changes while I’m still philosophically analysing something you said two hours ago. Also, your emotions…dear me, they are everywhere…

But yes, there are a few ways that I relate to INFPs (not drastic ways, just subtle ones).

The main way that I relate to INFPs in the persistent Fi desire to do the right thing. Of course, we go about it vastly differently, but the goal is the same.

Secondly, there is the often frequent drive for creativity –which, as a writer, artist and Ni user, I relate to regardless of whether the creativity stems from an Ni or Ne function. Both types of intuition can be vastly creative, just in different ways. Many make the mistake of assuming that only Ne is creative, and that Ni is merely a goal setting function –this is based on a limited understanding of MBTI.

Ni presents more of a focused and vision oriented creativity while Ne presents an unexpected and possibility based creativity.

The Little Prince

The Little Prince INFP | #MBTI #INFP

Introverted Feeling (Fi): The little prince is kind to everyone, the flower, the narrator, the fox and even the conceited man he meets on his journey. The little prince’s emotions are deep and often overwhelming, yet he doesn’t enjoy talking about himself or his feelings. Unlike many, he is independent and doesn’t always feel the need to obey authority. He reacts strongly to anything that he cares deeply about because he’s so emotionally invested. Continue reading

Lucy Pevensie: INFP

The Chronicles of Narnia, C.S. Lewis

Lucy Pevensie: INFP | The Chronicles of Narnia #MBTI #INFP

Fi: Lucy always follows her heart, even when her head and her siblings are telling her otherwise. She tends to be a bit over-trusting of people, which can get her into trouble at times, but generally, it serves to make her gentle and loving. Though she is sensitive to other people’s criticisms, she is quick to forgive, and quicker to love. Lucy wants to put herself to good service and loves to help people. Aslan’s Christmas gift to her is one that aids her Continue reading

John Green: INFP

John Green INFP

Introverted Feeling (Fi): John Green usually doesn’t make his feelings public (though his ideas are very public). He’s good at writing deep, highly emotional characters who ask harsh questions about morality and the nature of human existence. His writing is always highly emotion driven and leaves most F-type readers sobbing when they The Fault in Our Stars, or Looking for Alaska. John Green has a strong desire to help other people and certainly does so through his writing and vlogging. Continue reading