Introverted Intuition (Ni): Toshiko is a master at recognising mathematical and behavioural patterns that allow her to figure out how present events will implicate future happenings. Tosh’s plans are intricate, leaving no detail amiss, and they usually work out exactly how she expects. Furthermore, she plans years in advance (consider her goodbye video log following her death). Continue reading
First, I’ll suggest taking a look at the Understanding Your INTJ Friend page. I’ve probably updated it since you initially asked this question.
As an ENTP, you have all opposite functions to an INTJ, which will naturally make it difficult for you to understand them. However, I have an INTP family member with whom I actually have a fantastic relationship, so it is possible for opposite types to get along.
The best advice I can give you comes from a principle Continue reading
Juliette said: As an Intj, you might have experienced the people I call “blabbers.” They talk on an on about just random things. There are then the butthurts. I talk to them about reducing population in a humane but ingenious way: “BUT THEY’RE HUMANS YOU CANT KILL HUMANS”
And finally, there’s my family. They’re nice but… my mother is overprotective and thinks i’m insensitive and that i’m weird to think logically. My father gets angry over irrational things. My relative is ok but they often find a way to “mess up” and therefore create tension in our family. But the worse is that they make drama out of everything. They fight over evertthing. My mother constantly stays in the past.
So, the actual question, is how to just “deal with it”? Seeing as most people are like this the situation is quasi-constant and it drives me mental! Of course staying in my room for as long as I want isn’t an option because then i’m deemed anti social. Any advice from past experience or maybe just pure reasoning would help because this is honestly on the verge of being unbearable. Thanks.
My dear you can talk.
I’m assuming you’re asking me because you want a blunt, honest answer. Well, in that case, you’re in the right place.
Trust me, there’s an ENFP out there somewhere who’s smarter than you (his name is Michio Kaku if you need to hunt him down), so don’t you ever go thinking that being an INTJ makes you smarter or better than anyone else. Continue reading
alifara asked: What is the difference between XNTJ and XSFP ? are ISFPs capable of being cold, highly-critical, and impulsive ?
Yes, ISFPs can certainly be cold and highly critical –just like any type can behave coldly and critically. A good fictional example of this type of ISFP would be Kat Stratford from 10 Things I Hate About You. Continue reading
Ni: Stauffenberg had a very specific end in mind when he set out as a conspirer against Adolf Hitler. He understood that up until he joined, most of the other conspirers didn’t intend to go quite far enough to achieve that end. Thus, he refused to participate until they were willing to follow his game plan. He’s the one who suggested all the out-of-the-box solutions that everyone else was afraid to even think about. Stauffenberg had no trouble keeping a secret, and was better Continue reading
Ni: Stephen Hawking is a problem solver who’s goal is “complete understanding of the universe.” He also likes to describe himself as “master of the universe.” Many of his arguments contain intuitive leaps that are only followable because he provides the Te evidence necessary to prove them (I say prove…nothing can really be proved. All you can do is disprove). Hawking is good at visualizing the universe –it’s been said his brain is like a giant virtual map. Continue reading
“I’m an INTJ, and I get the idea that a lot of people fetishize us for reasons incomprehensible to me. I can relate quite a bit to the INTJs presented (in fetishized form) on telly, but sometimes, there are things about the way they’re presented that drives me absolutely insane. Do you get the same feeling? Or is it just me?”
It’s not just you. All INTJs secretly hate and admire their fetishization.
In canon media, INTJ’s bad qualities tend to be featured rather than their good ones — particularly bluntness and seemingly invisible feelings. The reason for this is likely that most of the people writing INTJs are not INTJs themselves, Continue reading
“You’ve typed a lot more INTJs than any other type”
I believe you submitted this comment under the questions section?
Either way, a question was implied, and I will honour your request.
I don’t know your type, but based on the content of your comment, I know you’re not an INTJ. Try to imagine what it would be like if you had Continue reading
Sue asked: “I have seen INTJ Associated with Narcissistic behaviour. Why is this? It makes no sense when INTJ’s are disinterested in controlling or exploiting other people.”
Simply put: the media is to blame.
I’ve said many times that because people are Continue reading
Ni: Harvey Dent has a singular mission, which he devotes his life and time to fulfilling. He would never leave anything up to chance, though he likes to pretend that he does, but rather, does everything with a purpose and a specific end in mind. He has a strong grasp of irony and Continue reading
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Ni: Dr. Crane’s focus is specific, narrow. He does not focus merely on psychology, but on an even more specific thread within the field –experimenting on the criminally insane. He easily picks up on other people’s suspicions and is able to foresee dangers to his operations before they are an actual threat. For this cause, he has a backup Continue reading
Sumayyah asked: As an INTJ. I used to be very detached and anything emotional aggravated me. However, my problem lately has been that I’m usually in a bad mood or temper. I snap at people more often. I don’t like to hear or have any conversations that make emotions and feelings the center. Also, I have been betrayed by the man that I liked. I don’t know how to deal with these sudden feeling and emotions. It seems very illogical to me and aggravates me that they are controlling me. Do you have any advice or tips for an INTJ do deal with this situation.
Here’s my #1 piece of advice: DO NOT TURN OFF YOUR UPPER FUNCTIONS. Do everything you can to avoid locking into only your lower functions (this is called being “in the grip” and it isn’t a healthy state to be in). Make use of your upper functions.
My second piece of advice is to avoid locking into a loop between your Extraverted Thinking (Te) function and your Extraverted Sensing (Se) function. Often, INTJs experiencing emotional trauma will do this in order to detach from the strong feelings they’re enduring. Just as I warn you not to lock into only your lower functions, it’s unwise to stop using any function simply to avoid dealing with a problem.
To quote one of my all-time favourite Christopher Nolan films, “you always fear what you don’t understand.” And it sounds like there’s a disjunct between your emotions and your understanding of them (thus your fear of them).
Take your TeFi and analyse your feelings. Allow yourself to feel those feelings, but then ask yourself why you’re feeling what you’re feeling. Mature INTJs do not hide from their feelings. They face them without allowing the feelings to control them.
It is perfectly possible to feel strongly and still be rational. The feelings themselves may be irrational, but the only way you’re going to talk yourself out of that irrationality is to analyse those feelings so that you can understand them, and to do that, you have to feel them.
You will never understand anything that you spend all your time hiding from.
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Abbie asked: Help! I’m an INTJ and I’m crying… In a public place… With no secluded spot or sanctuary I can run to… And people are watching… What do I do? What do you do?
Answer: Curtesy queue interruption –this is what you should do.
It does not matter what anyone thinks of you. A person who judges you for crying is not someone whose opinion you should value enough to let it affect you. When you cry in public, that’s when you really discover the character of the people you care about. The ones who judge you aren’t people you want to keep around and those who don’t will probably be your friends for life.
Secondly, you should never be ashamed of crying.
There are large quantities of immature T-types out there who will tell you that emotion is for weaklings. To that, I say that if you have not cried –if you have not been broken, your life has been too easy and you have not learned enough.
Don’t listen to anyone who tells you that you’re weak for emoting. Crying releases endorphins, which is why we sometimes can’t feel better until we’ve had a decent cry. Emotion is what makes us human. If we could not feel, we would not make moral decisions.
If there is nowhere to hide your tears, stop worrying about it and deal with what’s really important (aka the issue that’s making you cry in the first place).
When an issue is important enough, just let yourself cry. Who cares if people are watching? Cry, and then move on. That’s all I can really tell you.
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