Sue asked: “I have seen INTJ Associated with Narcissistic behaviour. Why is this? It makes no sense when INTJ’s are disinterested in controlling or exploiting other people.”
Simply put: the media is to blame.
I’ve said many times that because people are fascinated by INTJs, they try to write INTJ characters into books/film, but due to a lack of exposure to real-life INTJs, they end up writing them as stereotypes rather than realistic people. Two prime examples of this would be Dr. Gregory House and BBC’s Sherlock.
These are the only INTJs that a large number of people are familiar with, and as a result, they assume that all INTJs must be like that. Not to mention the fact that Tumblr has kindly infused most MBTI fans with the idea that all lower Fi users are self absorbed.
I agree with you that most real-life INTJs aren’t interested in controlling or manipulating other people and this is because most real-life INTJs are more mature than the ones portrayed in the media. More Immature INTJs do tend to be a bit controlling.