natalia.manzano asked: I am a gender fluid person. Sometimes I feel more like I am male, sometimes more like I am a female. Same person but different approaches to life. It is like I can be an INTJ woman or a INFJ man which is kind of confusing for people who meet me and just pay attention at the way I look, like a “normal” extroverted (can fake it) woman. Is it possible to be two different MBTI types depending on your gender drive?
It just so happens you’re in luck, because I also identify as gender fluid. Most days I wake up in the morning feeling androgynously between genders and other days I wake up feeling distinctly masculine or femme.
I understand just as well as you how confusing gender fluidity can be when presented to cis people, and keep in mind that everyone will have different reactions to it (whether you’re out or not).
I (for some odd reason) have a study group that constantly complements me on my both my gender fluid clothing choices and on my INTJ traits. I was very surprised the first few times it happened, but now I’m just enjoying it.
Other people will –you guessed it– freak out internally and not know how to react to your gender presentation, and that’s just something you get used to. Some of the dancers I’ve met at Lindy Hop events won’t dance with me because they’re convinced I’m gay (a choice which is pathetic on their part), but I deal with it because it’s what I’ve always done.
Even some of my blog readers have gotten confused about what gender I am and asked for clarification in past comments. Some were fully convinced I was female, while other were fully convinced that I was male.
This is just my personal experience, but regardless of my gender identity, I always feel and reason as an INTJ would.
However, at one point I did experience the same questions you’ve just asked me. I was confused by the INFJ man / INTJ woman complex that you’ve just described. Be aware that gender fluidity isn’t associated with personality changes generally. However, it’s easy to fall prey (when you’re fluid) to the stereotypes of both INTJ and INFJ in combination with society’s stereotypes about gender.
For instance, it’s often easier to associate F types as females and T types as males –which is an absolutely irrational thing to do considering the evidence. To avoid this conundrum, I’d suggest reading my INTJ vs INFJ post (if you haven’t already) and considering objectively how your thought process works.
I might even suggest making a chart and re-typing yourself each time you fluctuate between identifying more as male, female or other. Like so:
If possible, don’t type yourself via any online tests, but using your understanding of the Jungian cognitive functions. Be as objective as you can. Consider not how you appear to others, but how your thought process is working and how you naturally respond to changing situations and people.
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